Which bra with what?

A guide for every size

Boobs have never had it so good. We’ve come a long way from Victoria’s Secret, and today’s landscape is full of smart design, better materials, and options for every shape, size, and outfit. But with that comes confusion and decision fatigue, so today’s letter breaks down bras by size, shape goals, outfit needs, and my personal favorite: tape. Whether you’re after structure, subtlety, or just the right thing to squish your boobs into place, this is your streamlined edit.

Negative Sieve Bra / The Naked Club / Else Mesh bra / Negative Stealth bra

POV: You have A-C sized boobs and…

(Let’s start with an easy one) You want them to look bigger:

The Skims Super Push Up is currently the gold standard for push up bras and adds a full cup size.

You can turn any bra into a push up bra by adding ‘chicken cutlets’ which, in the world of bras, are squishy inserts for boosting volume.

You want them nicely shaped:

This plunge bra from Thirdlove looks great under clothes. The deep V and relatively thin straps make it an easy match for Vnecks, tanks, etc.

A traditional T-shirt Bra like this from the Gap is exactly what it says it is; a bra to wear under a T-shirt. The stars in this category like this one from Thirdlove are the smoothest and most invisible under clothes, and go further in smoothing your back and sides.

My go-to for shape is the Skims Bralette—it offers real support (rare for a bralette), but with separate cups that give you definition instead of a uni-boob.

Your bra is visible:

If you’re wearing a sundress or an open blouse, chances are we’re gonna get a visual, so make it nice:

Old Anthropologie dress (a good alt here), Agmes necklace, and an older version of this Anine Bing Bralette

The Anine Bing bralette is made to be seen—comfortable, lightly supportive, and with just the right edge. While Amazon and Free People offer similar styles, nothing truly duplicates it.

POV: You have D+ boobs and…

You need support

This Chantelle bra is the gold standard for comfort and support. Runner up is this Wacoal bra via amazon

You want them nicely shaped:

Do not sleep on Yitty - Lizzo’s lingerie line. This woman knows support and the styles are so cute and well priced (plunge bra above)

Your bra is visible:

Lizzo for the win again - lace bra via Yitty

The Panache lace bra - like a traditional lacy bra but with more structure and support

You have a unique dress/top… IT’S TIME FOR TAPE

In my years of styling I’ve found that if you need boobs to stay in place, and you can’t wear a bra, you need to tape them. I was cited in this New York Times article after I appeared on my client’s podcast talking about some of the best looks we’ve done thanks to boob tape. If you’re wondering if you can tape huge boobs, the answer is yes, you just need more tape (also get a wider tape like this).

Nood has simplified the process with these pre-cut strips, I’m a purist and prefer a full roll like this so I can cut the exact shape I want. Nood tapes include cute little instructions with illustrations, but there’s also plenty of tape to be found on Amazon.

I’m sure I missed some favorites in this roundup, but drop me a note below and let me know what should’ve made the list. I’m also planning to follow this up with a deep dive into compression wear, date night bras, and all the other categories we didn’t get to (this letter can only be so long!). Bras are a beast—deeply personal, often tangled up in our own stories and hang-ups. But hopefully this helps cut through the noise, or at least introduced you to a few new names worth trying on.

See you next week…

xo

A